So, I’m going to keep it real with you. I don’t like when women solely depend on men for everything they want or need; that is truly a recipe for disaster; what are you thinking? The minute these guys know they are literally your entire world; they begin to act up. Yeah, not all guys are like that, but the ones that are, make up a majority so wake up baby girl! Funny enough, it’s not even because you are a woman but simply for the fact that men are woke these days. Maybe some eons ago, they were okay with their women being heavily dependent on them, but now, they are absolutely not having it. No one wants to be stuck with a liability. After all, you are with that man because you recognize that he can pay your bills and take care of you, not because heโ€™s just pretty and is a liability to you right?

Women have to stop seeing men as ATMs; they are not a get-out-of-poverty-free card. I know some would argue that they give their bodies and all, but honey is that really an exchange? You are giving them something they literally don’t need to beg for to get, while on the other hand, these guys are giving you things some of you have never even dreamed of having before; so how exactly is that a fair trade? Relationships should not even be about trading anything in the first place. It’s a time to get to know someone better and grow together- not empty bank accounts and hop on the next train to boyfriend town.

As opposed to popular beliefs, where girls are all over the internet talking about get you a man that can pay your bills and spoil you, I believe that women too should spoil their men and treat them right. A woman should not only bring sex to the table; that pales in comparison to what these men do for them. Stop waiting for that man to appear and handle all your expenses magically; don’t you want to have your own money, buy expensive stuff and treat yourself right without needing to plot about ways to get money out of your man? Does it really count if, in the end, the gifts you get for your man are from his pocket?? Come on! Women wake up; these guys will still roll with you because you are fineeee, but that’s not what’s going to keep them. You have to up your game; don’t just offer sex, bring something else.

Avoid solely depending on a man; I know there’s the place where you sit back and let him take care of you but let him be the one to want to do that; not you making it an obligation and having an entitlement to his own money. You are merely telling him that all he has to do is walk out of your life, and you would be miserable. Do you want to be like that? Women can be so much more if they stop focusing on trivial things. 

Looking good is essential for a woman, but you don’t need costly things to do that. Don’t be so desperate to do things just for some extra cash but, if that’s your life philosophy- carry on, know that you would keep searching for ways to fill that gaping hole inside, and you won’t find it. Don’t be pressured to look a certain way, or talk a certain way- you just being able to take care of yourself and balance your physical and mental health is alright because I know for a fact that;

  • Men chase you, not the other way around. 
  • Be independent and learn to take care of yourself, don’t be waiting for a man to take you out. Yes, it’s okay to desire that once in a while, especially when you’ve been single for long but never wait for a guy to do those things for you. Do it first for yourself, and then he can come and amplify it. ๐Ÿ˜Œ
  • Practice self-love and body positivity; when you look down on yourself, you’re unconsciously controlling your environment to look down on you.
  • Be yourself- don’t pretend or change your character just to fit in or impress.
  • Invest in your body, dress well, eat healthy and beg the gods of exercise to let you shine ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ a lot of us know what I’m talking about 

Don’t be pressured to join the wagon of women living off men’s money; I admit we all want to secure that bag and live comfortably, but you can do that yourself by learning to save and putting off unnecessary expenses. I had to learn it, and you can too. It’s hard, trust me, I know, but it is definitely worth it. Be that woman that men chase after, don’t make yourself an option; you have to be the priority. So, have something worth pursuing after and relax, sip champagne and choose your man. You can always thank me later. ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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  1. The world would be a better place with more like minds like yours, amazing content, unapologetic.

  2. I solely agree with you. Simply because of how much women depend on men, youโ€™d see men you donโ€™t even take Them serious, men who beat them not because they did anything wrong but because they feel sheโ€™s useless to him and he can transfer his aggression of the day on her. At least if you know your worth and meet up to your own expenses sometimes, then heโ€™d think twice before raising a hand on you. Watched a video the other day and this guy slapped his girlfriend when she reminded him that he cheated too, his reply while slapping the girl was โ€œam I not a boy? Donโ€™t I give you moneyโ€ Tf! Itโ€™s so obvious she adds no value to him aside sex.

    1. I really don’t know why and how a person would approve of being treated that way.
      We all really need to learn to put more value on ourselves.

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